I love giving psychic readings to couples. It's rewarding to see illumination and understanding on their faces. Things are suddenly clear. This is fantastic.
What is even more fantastic is the love. There is so much love with a couple. They wouldn't be together to begin with if there wasn't. And I get to witness this love, and contribute to it! It is amazing! What a blessing!
It's been discouraging for me to discover in psychic readings stuff that is worked so hard in therapy that should be left alone.
For example the expression "emotionally available."
In psychotherapy everyone is supposed to be emotionally available. If a person is not, there is something wrong with him. One of the rotten things about this is that psychotherapy, once again, reinforces the societal tendencies of sameness, whereas in reality we are all unique with dramatically diverse soul purposes.
What I've discovered in doing readings is simple this. Some people relate emotionally, others don't. That's it. For some people, their next lesson is to expand their emotional capabilities, for others that is not their lesson. They are fine just as they are.
Looking deeper at a couple's connection, if there is no fundamental unity, there is no point in working the surfaces, like communication. However, if there is a deep unity, then learning some skills is of benefit.
I guess I'm disenchanted with psychotherapy with these findings in psychic readings and it's intrinsic lack of ability to discriminate in this regard, and can actually make a problem of a situation when there is no problem, and actually go into a situation of forcing a person to be and do something he is not -- potentially imitating childhood upbringing of force . . . .
What I've seen by giving psychic readings to couples is that the model in psychology of analyzing and fixing works to a point, but what's better is to have a totally different approach to relationship.
The approach is to think of relationship as something that you are building, something you are creating. Then bring every good thing to it that you can think of: humor, joy, love, creativity, play, trust, respect, honor, dignity . . . and keep brining it.
This way you are in charge. You get to do something about your relationship.
In light of this approach and these efforts, challenges work themselves out organically and non-confrontationally.