I Don't Know What to Do, Making a Decision, Feeling Your Deepest Truth

We all make decisions all the time. And there are times when it is really hard to decide. You may do the old left and right column, the pros and cons, process. That can work many times. At other times after going through that process, you may still feel undecided.

We can use our rational mind to analyze the situation as a way to figure out the best way forward. We are also aware of our emotions around the decision, and we can list those.

And, still, neither may offer a resolution as to what to do, which option to choose.

When neither the mind nor the emotions offer a way forward something else may be happening.

The emotions you are feeling about the situation may stem from childhood programing, not your authentic self. Childhood programing offers limited options, lets us feel and see only what was allowed in childhood. The reality is many more options are available that you cannot perceive from childhood programming.

If this is happening, you need to become aware of your deeper truth, your soul truth.

If childhood was difficult, many times we were simply not allowed to feel our feelings, know our deepest truth. What we usually feel is feelings of reaction to our difficult situation, not our deepest truth.

In order to make a decision that feels right, we have to feel our deepest soul truth. We have to get honest to the core.

That can be difficult. Talking to someone you trust may be a way to feel safe enough to feel your deepest feelings, feel your deepest truth.

There are many reasons why you would not want to feel your deepest truth. If you did, you'd be acting in a way that's best for you -- and that wasn't allowed growing up. Knowing your deepest truth can be scary because you might realize you have to do things that are difficult. Doubt comes up; are you sure you really want to do this? You'd be stepping into a whole new world acting on your own behalf, your own best interests -- and that wasn't allowed in childhood. Childhood programing is all about keeping you where you always were, what was allowed for you to feel, be and do. You weren't allowed go grow past that allowable limit.

Knowing this, you move forward, anyway, supporting yourself in living your truth and seeking help when you need to stay on the journey of becoming your true self, authentic self, soul self.

So, when you are trying to make a decision and no choices seem right, look deeper, see if you can find a deeper truth. Giving it a little time helps. Your soul self will come in and help you see more deeply. And talking to someone you trust and with whom you feel safe will also help.

If you can, hold off on choosing something just to choose. If you're not excited and feel freed by the choice, wait. Go deeper. Find your deepest truth and then move forward.