It's easy to get stressed and overwhelmed in our society. The Internet has provided endless diversion and makes it really difficult to continually discern between important and unimportant and what nurtures us and what doesn't. Then, of course, there are all the other modern-life stresses. And the worst scenario, when something not-so-pleasant unexpected happens and throws your life into extreme stress and chaos.

There are three things I do that help me get through super stressful times that really work for me. Maybe they will work for you. If you do not resonate with these solutions, take time to discover what works for you that way you are ready for those extremely stressful times.

1. I Take a Bath. My naturopath friend recommended baths 45-60 minutes to relax and clear toxins from the body. In the bathwater she recommended 1/2 cup Epsom Salts and 1 cup Bragg's Apple Cider Vinegar. Your health provider may recommend different quantities. It is very important to know that Epsom Salts are potent and can be toxic, so you need to know what is best for your body. Sitting in the bath a long time gives the Apple Cider Vinegar time to extract the toxins from the body. I had a hard time sitting in the bath that long. The solution is to not make the water as hot. In normal times, when I take the bath, I don't feel a whole lot of change. I feel better in many ways, true, but the times I feel it most is when I am really stressed. The bath changes my attitude, lifts my spirits, takes away to stress aches and pains and establishes general well being.
2. Tea. I drink 1 1/2 cups hibiscus tea, loose leaf. It has the same results as the bath, without the detoxification. It lowers blood pressure, calms me and establishes optimism and well being. Again, not a big deal under normal circumstances; big deal during stressful times. You might find another kind of tea works better for you.
3. I listen to Pandora Music. It's free, with a little commercials or about $60/year with no commercials. I have a subscription and it is heaven. During stressful times listening to new age music on Pandora literally feels like someone is caressing me and telling me that things will be all right. You can create stations according to artist or song. My favorite artist stations are: Anugama; Liquid Mind; Deuter; Dean Evenson; Sayama.

Of course yoga and meditation are fantastic, but I find during super stressful times, this is difficult and it's difficult to find the time. Same is true for inspirational reading. My mind simple can't take it in. So, for me non-mental, non-time consuming approaches work best for extremely stressful situations.

You can try some of my favorites, however, I'd recommend spending a little time discovering what works best for you. What is certain is there are ways to calm down and get relief from extreme stress.

There are lots of books about death and the dying process. Elisabeth Kubler Ross was one of the first people who wrote about the dying process in her book called, Death and Dying, in 1969.

Since then much has been written.

I learned a lot about death and dying by reading various books.

Actually, my entire spiritual journey was precipitated in 1978 when I saw my father's spirit, once he had left his body. I was completely unprepared. I had no idea such a thing could even happen.

That was such a monumental event, it left me wondering and questioning, and that brought people and books in my life that started answering my questions as to what happened.

One of the first books was Raymond Moody's book, Life After Life, (1975). The book was about near-death experiences. And they closely matched what I had experienced when my dad died.

I had learned that reading books written by people who have had a near-death experience explains a lot about the nature of reality and what happens once we leave our body. One such book is Dannion Brinkley's Saved by the Light: The True Story of a Man Who Died Twice and the Profound Revelations He Received. (That was Dannion's first book. Since that books was written, he had his third near-death experience.)

​Also reading books written by mediums like James Van Praagh offer important insight about life after death.

Reading these books, I synthesized the information to form a good picture of what happens when we die.

Possibly, the biggest learning for me came from reading Robert Monroe's three books: Journeys Out of the Body; Far Journeys; Ultimate Journey.

In the early 1950s, Robert Monroe had an "accidental" out-of-body experience that shook his world. It was so out of the ordinary that he set out on a journey to find out what's happening to him. The result was the three books and the creation of The Monroe Institute in Faber, VA, where he taught people how to leave their body at will.

I have read and re-read these books many times. They offer tremendous information about the nature of reality, about life here on this plane and life outside this plane -- if you are reading between the lines and synthesizing the information offered. Monroe only reports what happened; you have to look more deeply into it to understand what it all means.

My other source of extensive information about the nature of reality and life and death came from the many Seth books, written by Jane Roberts. If you decide to read those, it is recommended you read them in order they were written. Here I show the first two books.

Here's a short description of how I understand the process of life and death.

The soul decides it wants to enter this reality, It has specific objectives about what it wants to experience. It comes prepared with abilities to carry out its goals.

The soul comes in brining with it certain qualities, abilities and intentions and then it learns how to operate in matter and is influence by all earthly experiences.

Early on, the baby sleeps a lot; it is spending more time out of body learning things about how to do earthly life. Then sleeps less and less as it becomes more earth bound. But in my psychic readings what I see is that the souk does not really take total root in physical reality until about the teen years. Then an earthly identity is formed. 

As the person progresses through life, it gets more and more focused on doing earthly life all up until it starts to think about leaving the earth plane. Then the focus, again, shifts to spending time out of body, synthesizing earth experiences with spiritual knowing. Older people sleep a lot. The focus starts to be taken off the physical. One starts "forgetting," letting go of this existence slowly.

A lot of what is diagnosed as a medical problem, like dementia is simply the person moving out of this real of existence and transitioning more into the spiritual realm.

As I said, the person starts to forget things of this life. This is critical because it allows the soul to move on. This life experience is one of many experiences the soul has in many other lifetimes and many other realities. 

Once out of body, the soul spends time reviewing this life and what it has learned and correlating it to all other knowledge gained in other lifetimes and other realities. In the end, the earth personality becomes part of the larger reality of what the soul knows, what is its larger identity.

This is similar to the person having many different life experiences -- while they are the same person. So, the soul has many experiences, but they are about many lifetimes and experiences in many realities.

When we die, we are naturally drawn to move on. Most of the time, in my understanding, others, who were important to us, wait for us and help us move out of our body.

I think many people fear what will happen. I have had a number out-of-body experiences. The main thing is your consciousness is still you. You are you. You're fundamentally not associated with your body, Wherever you are as spirit is the you you are.

There are exceptions to all this, but that's too much to go into right here.

Pretty much immediately after death, as I understand it, we are in the presence of our higher self -- many Christians believe it is Christ they are with, but my understanding is you  are with your higher self and you review your life. Where have a done good, where have I hurt people, what have I learned, and so on.

The there is a rest period where the soul integrates all its experiences and comes back to identity as soul, instead of just the earthly personality it has been for a short time.

After that, the soul plans, with the help of his/her higher self and spirit friends, its next incarnation or a sojourn into another plane of existence.

So, that's my understanding of what happens when we are the way out of this existence, a short explanation.

We are all different. Our learning on this planet is different from everyone else's. Our challenges are different. What works as help and support for one person may not necessarily work for another. Thankfully, these days, there are so many healing modalities and supports that each one of us will be able to find something that works for us to help us get through challenging times, to help us learn and grow. 

We are all responsible for our well-being; we are the only authority in our life. We can do a lot to help ourselves, to heal our selves.

Personally, I am strongly inclined to heal myself, no matter what the issue. If you have the understanding that healing can be instant, that the Universe wants only good for you, where willingness to heal is key -- you can heal. If you are willing to change, grow in consciousness. If you understand that all healing is a shift in consciousness.

Even most healers do not understand this and it's the reason I do couple of things. First, I am always ready to change. When I run into any difficulties, I know I need to learn something. I need to change. I need to grow in consciousness. I stay alert to all discomfort and do something about it as soon as I am aware of it. Sometimes I can change right away. At other times, the issue is more complex and can take me a while.

When I, for whatever reason, was unaware, was unconscious about some situation, and the result of that is a big challenge, once again, I look for solutions.

If I can't figure it out on my own, I talk to my therapist. There are some issues that are difficult to resolve on one's own. There are blind spots.

Mainly, my focus is to stay healthy, on all levels, to begin with.

The way I stay healthy, as I said, is to stay on top of what's bugging me and resolve it as soon and as fast as I can. I do this mostly by using my guided meditations.

When I started giving psychic readings and saw psychically how energy operated in the aura. I also saw solutions to clients' problems. The guided meditations came as solutions, a way to make the necessary change in the aura as a way to change physical reality.

I've created all kinds of guided meditations to address all kinds of needs. And I use all of them.

The guided meditations help me gain awareness about what is troubling me. I gain deeper understanding of the situation, a larger truth that can often immediately release the problem.

Also, while listening to a guided meditation, our higher self always comes in to help and I receive insights, solutions and illuminations and that solves the issue.

The main thing is not to let any problem linger, but to address it right away. Lingering problems create more problems. I found this out the minute I started giving psychic readings.

I remember a session with a woman whose life's MO was to sweep everything under the rug. She was around fifty years old. Oh, the structure of her aura . . . it was a complex mess of unresolved issues that just got more and more complex as more issues were piled on top of the old issues.

It is difficult and takes a long time to unravel something that extensive and complicated. It can be done, but it takes a while and the person has to stay committed to the lengthy process.

So, resolving things, as soon as possible is critical. Unresolved issues, eventually can turn into physical issues.

I uses my guided meditations (they're under the Shop tab), and also Sanaya Roman's (downloads to her free guided meditations are available under the Help section of the website), excellent guided meditations to stay on top of anything that's niggling me.

I also make effort to eat healthfully. For me, the main thing about eating in a healthy way is not to eat processed foods.

We're all different and I think everyone needs to figure out what works best for them and his/her body when it comes to food and eating.

I also exercise and do a good amount of stretching. Again, everyone needs to figure out what works best for them. Not all exercise programs work for everyone. Our bodies are different and need different exercises to function optimally.

When I was in my 20s and 30s I loved going to the gym to work out, as I think most people that age do. Now I like working out at home. I have a stationary bike and I have dumbbells and a barbell. For an easy workout I ride the stationary bike and, at the same time, use dumbbells.

What I also absolutely love to do is use workout DVDs. There are lots and lots of all kinds of different workout DVDs, including yoga, meditation and stretching on Total Fitness DVDs and Collage Video. It's a really easy way to get a variety of workouts at home. I love it!

One of my favorite deep stretch DVDs is Mimi Solaire's Deep Stretch Yin Yoga. Really excellent for deep relaxation and stretching.

If I run into physical difficulties, if I can't figure it out on my own, I see an herbalist.

Since I am inclined to figure out solutions to challenges I encounter on my own, before going and getting help from the outside, I am inclined to encourage everyone else to do the same.

No one knows you as well as you do. No one cares about you as much as you do. Retaining your authority over your own being is what is most important to staying healthy on all levels of reality.

I have a short list of healers I like in the Help section.

So, that's the way I stay healthy and resolve challenges. I encourage you to stay on top of any difficulties and challenges you face and see about resolving them as fast as possible. That is the easiest and best way to stay healthy and not encounter big issues down the line.

Spiritual Growth: Being Your Higher Self, by Sanaya Roman, is quite an old book by now, written in 1989, yet it's unique and I don't know of anything like it out there these days. In fact, I'm not even sure a publisher would accept it today since it does not meet standard publisher book requirements, as I understand them.

However, around that year, 1989, an amazing publisher existed in Tiburon, CA, HJ Kramer, and they published the most unique and amazing spiritual books, including Dan Millman's Way of the Peaceful Warrior: The Book That Changes Lives. An unusual book with supernatural experiences with an Indian shaman.

Around that time Carlos Castaneda, who is named as the man who started the New Age movement, put out the most fascinating books about his shaman training with Don Juan, the first being The Teachings of Don Juan: The Yaqui Way of Knowledge.  Not published by Kramer.

Those were exciting times. Spiritual teachers were emerging everywhere with new information about the nature of reality, new healing modalities. Exploration of consciousness was it. Lots and lots of fantastic books came out at that time.

I so loved that time and miss it very much. I don't feel that anything of the kind is going on right now, the extraordinary spiritual revelations and innovations, at least nothing I am aware of. It seems to me we've become money/goals/achievements, externally focused. But, no doubt, at some point that will pass and there will be another wave of spiritual illuminations.

Back to Sanaya's book. I highly recommend it. It explains deep spiritual processes and realizations that are almost impossible to put into words. They will help you tremendously on your spiritual journey.

Here are some chapters:
1. Being Your Higher Self
2. Creating with Light
3. Connecting with the Universal Mind
4. Linking with the Higher Will
5. Seeing the Bigger Picture: Receiving Revelations
6. Opening Awareness of the Inner Planes
7. Moving Into Higher Consciousness

There is more, but this gives you an example of the kinds of things Sanaya was able to write about channeling her guide, Orin.

A wonderful book that shifts consciousness immediately.

Here is Sanaya's website: https://www.orindaben.com/

They have fantastic guided meditations, an awesome newsletter and they continue to offer light body workshops.

I just loved this skit.

The agreement between the couple is that they both can't fall apart at the same time. So, one of them holds the fort while the other recovers.  Beautiful.

Long time ago, I read the book, The Bridge Across Forever, by Richard Bach.  Richard and Leslie, his wife, have this same agreement.

I think this is fantastic to be able to do in relationship. Lots of things happen in life and to have confidence that the relationship is safe and there will be support of this kind offers great comfort.