In my psychic reading practice I don't often see clients who are dealing with death in the family, but once in a while, they come with grief and questions, so I thought I'd write about death and dying from what I know.
First I want to acknowledge that without a doubt, it's one of the most difficult, most challenging experiences to go through, to experience a death in the family or with friends. There is a sense of unreality, disorientation, disbelief. Questions arise as to the meaning of life, relationships; an examination takes place, a survey of one's own life, life in general, values, meaning, purposes.
The biggest question, of course is, what happens after we die.
What I will share here comes from my own experience, what I have observed and what I have read.
When we die, we leave our body in the same state of consciousness that we are familiar with that we know as ourselves, our identity. From my own experiences in out-of-body travel, I know that there is not a sense of "missing" the body. We are where our consciousness is. Our identity is our consciousness. We know ourselves as the consciousness that we are. So identity is not lost as we leave our physical body.
Once we leave our physical body permanently, we are welcomed by all sorts of people, family and friends, who are already on the spirit side and also by family and friends who are still alive, but temporarily out of body. They all help you make the transition.
Lots of different things happen after that, all depending on what your beliefs are and your individual process.
However, eventually, our consciousness begins to expand. We start to become aware of other aspects of our being. Our human personality in this lifetime is only a fraction of our full, our whole identity as a divine being. So slowly we expand into awareness of all our different lifetimes and awareness of our totality.
From this perspective we understand ourselves as a gigantic, powerful entity and we experience the life we just left, along with other lives we've lived on earth and other dimensions, as experiences we've had. This experience would be similar in our earthly experience as us remembering, let's say, when we were in kindergarten, the self we were then, then our memories of being in high school, the self we were then, and college, and so on.
So just as we remember these different selves, our entity, our total divine identity remembers the many lifetimes we've lived as an experience it has had.
At some point after leaving our physical body permanently, we may choose to incarnate again on the earth plane, or we incarnate elsewhere in other realities, or we move on to other experiences. In all these choices we are helped by our higher self and many beings of light who are our friends and who have been our friends through eternity. We are not alone. We are not making decisions alone. There is lots of help, support and most of all lots of love.
There is nothing to fear in making the transition from being an identity with a body to being an identity without a body.
I believe that the feeling we feel when someone close to us dies that we can't believe it, that they don't seem dead is because they are not. Of course that explains why so many people have seen their loved ones in spirit, as I have, when they have left their body permanently.
So this feeling that they are alive is true; they are alive, just not manifesting in physical reality. And you will most likely see them when you leave your physical body; they will be there waiting for you to help you. You will also see them in dreams. And if you're very sensitive, you will see them and feel them in normal daily consciousness.
My love, and prayers go out to all who are going through this experience at this time. Remember, the Universe is a good place, it is for you. You are always loved and supported. You are never abandoned. You are never alone. You are loved.
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. 2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. 3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. 4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. 5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. 6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.
Some books that might be helpful.