From giving psychic readings I see that some of the hardest times in people's lives are times of transition. These times of transition are phases of life; one phase ends, another begins. The reason they are so difficult is because people are not aware that they are going through a transition. If they were, they would be a lot more tolerant and patient with themselves and the process.
During transition, everything's in upheaval. The old is done, it does not work; usually the person goes into an automatic life review: what have I done? Regrets, desires, unfulfilled dreams -- all emerge in amazing emotional intensity; it can be overwhelming, confusing and hard to take.
It is during those times that people, wanting to be out of this pain, tend to make rash decisions, hurry it all up just to be done with it and onto secure ground again where everything makes sense again, and like can proceed, as before.
And it's during one of those life transitions--around the age of 50--that people make the mistake of getting divorced. Of course, it may not always be a mistake, but often, from giving psychic readings, I see that it is.
For the relationship, most of the time, it's a simple matter of realigning the relationship.
Certain life commitments are over, like raising children, and each person finds herself in a new life--hence the relationship needs to be re-configured.
It's a time when not only individually do the two people reevaluate their lives and formulate new directions, but as a couple they need to do the same. This is not so difficult to do if one knows what is going on and is willing to be present and patient with the process.
What I see, as a possibility, for couples who do this re-configuring of their relationship is a whole new potential for the unfoldment of their relationship. They can enter into a new phase of their relationship, enjoy it in a different way and grow in a different way. It can be quite exciting and exhilarating.
The main thing is to give it enough time. This is a process. First there is the turbulence of self evaluation, the the relationship reevaluation. The somewhere about there, the dust starts to settle and the form of the new relationship starts to emerge.
In our society where everything is a microwave event, we expect the same for even our relationships, and it simply does not work that way. Forbearance and fortitude are great attributes supporting soul evolution and securing the most fulfillment in life.
So, if you're at that age and you're wondering, look at it from this perspective, you'll be surprised the treasures that can await you.