We hear a lot about the need to forgive people. For sure, it takes away our own anger and pain, but there is something else, perhaps more important about the need to forgive.
In this video Penny Wittbrodt talks about what happens when we have nasty thoughts about people.
Basically, our nasty thoughts reach the person. They attach themselves to the person. They reinforce the person being who he/she already is.
This is about as bad as it gets. Instead of helping them move out of their condition, we are assuring they stay as they are.
I have felt this in my own life, but did not identify it so clearly. For me it was the way my family thought about me. I felt their thoughts -- and could not seem to shed them. They were like slime attached to me, encasing me, giving me no room to breathe. And I had that sense of wanting to brush them off -- the thoughts -- off me, shake them off, but since I wasn't totally aware of what was happening I could not consciously do anything about it.
I've also seen this in one particular psychic reading session. The young man came from a family that was very strict. They wanted him to be a certain way, do what they thought was right for me, and so on. I clearly saw that energy around his head. It was strong. It absolutely limited what he could even think, let alone do in his life.
At this moment I don't know what is best to do with this new, broader understanding. But I do know that we can have nasty thoughts -- mostly because we can't help ourselves -- BUT what we CAN do with them is think them, then consciously make the intent that it not reach the person. Even our becoming aware of the thought as hurting someone, can be enough for it not to reach the person.
I am hoping that with a little time, I will know more and have even better solutions for this ubiquitous problem that does nothing for either making our lives better or the lives on the planet.
By the way, in my experience and understanding, she was not talking to God, she was talking to her higher self.