By giving psychic readings I've noticed a habit most of us have: to dig deep to find out what's wrong as a way to get what we want.
It's good to identify what the problem is, but that's where the digging should end.
After that, you look to see where you want to go.
More digging will not get you what you want; focusing on where you want to go will.
The way this works from an energy point of view is simple: where you focus is what will gain energy. So if you're focused on where you want to go, the energy builds up in that area.
When you dig around to see what's wrong, the attitude that there is something wrong--which is the energy that will produce results--is not the energy with which to get what you want. Additionally, after you've discovered what's wrong, continuing to look there for what's right will not yield an answer. The energy just builds up around discovering problems.
And that's how you discover problems, or make problems where there actually were no problems.
So, a good approach is: 1. To notice what you're not liking. 2. Check to see what the problem is, or why this does not work for you. 3.Then ask yourself what you would like.
Then focus all your attention and energy to take action on what you want.
Along the way you will be met with emotions and thoughts about this thing that you want, and you handle those as they come up, and you keep moving toward that which you want.
Easy! When you know how energy works. And, now that I've mentioned energy, I give a nice, succinct description about how energy works in my book The Workings of Energy in the Human Energy Field: A Psychic's Perspective. It's a quick read, but oh so very important. It's available in print, Kindle and audio.