It's tough when we're in transition. One part of our life has ended, the new has not fully formed, we're in the middle, usually with confusion, doubt, anxiety and fear.
But the new always forms; it's just a matter of time.
If we can weather the unknown for a while and actually make use of that time in the most constructive way possible, we will then create the best opportunity for what can open up for us in the new.
The most constructive use of the in-between time, the unknown, time of uncertain and doubt:
1. Let all that arises--grief, sadness, fear, regret, and so on--have space and time. Let it come up. Look at it. Feel it. Acknowledge it. And, let it go.
Lots will arise. The main thing is not to pretend it's not there. Just let it flow. This is a natural cleansing, clearing, release process. It's organic. We're processing through what's been, letting it go, and preparing room for the new.
Just let this happen. Don't make anything of it. Don't attach to any of it. Don't dramatize, sensationalize--just let it flow through you.
2. Allow dreams. You'll have ideas, picture, images, moments of excitement for something that you want to do, have, experience, and so on. Notice those. Write them down. These are images of your new self giving you information of the new direction.
Open up to those images. Do not sweep them under the rug. Do not ignore them. Do not wave them off, discount them. Rather pay special attention.
Most importantly, get a notebook and write them down.
Also, let them flow through you.
This is a two-step process we all go through in times of big change. If we let all of it flow, we are being very constructive, releasing the old and opening up space for the new.
In time all of this will synthesize in the best possible way for you. You will know what to do, automatically, and your unfoldment in your new life will commence.