I give psychic readings to couples. In a couple's reading both people come in together. Given the energies in their aura, I can see how they think about each other and what childhood energies are still active.
What I wanted to write about today is what is common with couple's: each person in the relationship is waiting for the other to do something to make the relationship better. Meanwhile, both people are focused on what they perceive as the flaws in the other person, and the general unsatisfactoriness of the relationship.
When I first saw these attitudes in a reading, I was appalled; there was simply no way to make things better with those postures. It's a situation where you beat something up to make it better. There is no way this can work.
The answers that arose in readings is to make the decision to actively bring into the relationship love, joy, fun, play, creativity, harmony, goodness, respect, gratitude, appreciation, etc. To make it a responsibility to bring to the relationship the highest vibration and to continually have the intention that your own vibration is increasing, therefore you have the potential to bring into the relationship ever-greater goodness, joy, light . . .
In giving psychic readings I have automatically defaulted to holding each person in the highest regard--I see the soul, and when you see the soul there is nothing but the highest respect, highest regard; I am always inclined to bow to the light of each being.
In relationship I see that's what has to be the foundation, the bowing to the light, the divinity of the person.
This does not mean that "problems" and challenges do not exist on the human level, it just means you approach handling them differently. You can choose to be creative with whatever challenges you are facing, coming to them with the knowledge that all challenges are there to expand consciousness; they are meant to be solved and, therefore, can be solved. So there is no reason for fear. Coming to the challenges with good will and the intention to grow to higher consciousness through this vehicle of this challenge, you are pretty much assured of success.
If you make it a focus to bring all the joy, goodness, light, love, kindness . . . to the relationship, you will be amazed how quickly your relationship will start to feel like the one you wanted--but expected the other person to create.
At the core of this is you yourself accepting a wonderful relationship, believing in yourself that you can, indeed, experience this much joy and happiness in a relationship. So saying yes to this first, is the beginning.
And saying yes to this joy and light is saying yes to All That Is/God. And when we do that, we are at One. And that's what all of us really want because it is there we find peace and joy that is of the permanent peace and joy of our Creator and truly fulfills.