One of the hardest things in giving readings is watching people suffer when they are undergoing a major spiritual transformation because I can't tell them it will be better. It won't. The nature of a major spiritual transformation is that it's difficult and it can last a long time. And there is nothing and no one that can take that away.
One of the really unfortunate things in our American society is that we've been led to believe that we can always have it easy, fix things. Even the New Age folks have led one to believe that one can visualize all sorts of things into existence.
None of this is true when one is undergoing a major spiritual transformation.
The objective of a major spiritual transformation is that one is undergoing shaping and forming so as to be the vehicle through which soul light can express. For that, the personality has to be shaped. Anything that is in the way has to be ground out, ultimately yielding a new consciousness capable of bringing into the world soul truth.
The easiest way to move through this phase is to first of all know what it is, and second, to surrender, say yes, be willing to change. It will still be difficult and still may take a while, but not as difficult as when you resist. The objective is a new, higher state of consciousness, so the more willing you are, the faster you will transform.
A good thing to remember is that you wouldn't be in this position of being shaped and molded by the higher forces if you did not have something to give to the world, and if you were not capable of doing so.
A good way to think about it, if you're in this phase, is to take on the warrior stance. Think of yourself as a spiritual warrior, ready, willing, strong and capable to undergo this amazing gift of transformation.
Joel Osteen, in the video below, talks about this kind of soul growth from a slightly different perspective, but he says it all.