In giving readings I have discovered that we move through phases in life. Each phase has a focus. These are the larger phases.
There are also smaller phases. These smaller phases tend to be about completing a set of learnings. Once we are done, we are ready for another round of learning.
It's these transitions that are really difficult for people for one reason: they don't know that a phase has ended and they are starting a new one.
In our society we are expected to be on the move all the time. And we are expected to always know everything. There really is no room for being in the unknown and without action. And this is why this phase is so difficult.
Usually between the ending of a phase and the beginning of a new phase there is a time of "nothingness," a time when we seem to be confused, without direction, lost.
This is a time when lots of stuff is going on on the inner levels. It is truly a fantastic time.
If we understand that we are between phases, and simply allow ourselves to just be, with no expectations, we can quite easily transition into a new phase.
What's most supportive at this time, as I already said, is not to have any expectations. No agendas, no demands on the self, just a huge openness. And a huge allowing. When thoughts come up, give them air time. When emotions come up, let them rise to the surface and look at them. When desires come up, bring those to the table and look at them.
Attaching to none of it. Judging none of it.
You are going through a huge integration time. And just allowing all to surface is part of this integration, and prepares you for the next level of growth, the next phase in your life.
This phase can feel tremendously disorienting and ungrounding. The way to handle that is to simply accept being disoriented and ungrounded. Not to expect of yourself to be anything else. Not to put yourself down for not knowing better. But to just accept being disoriented, ungrounded, in the unknown. Once you get with this program, it is actually quite liberating--your energy can flow freely, and you will feel huge relief from the exertion of trying to "control" your situation.
With enough time, all the pieces that were up in the air will come down and settle into a knew state of being, a new consciousness, a new awareness. Spontaneously you will reach for the next thing, be driven organically to seek out whatever is next for you, and there you are, off into your new phase!
As I said, the easiest way to move through this is a large acceptance of the unknown. And the acceptance that you will need some time to move through this; don't rush it. It's an organic process, and the more you let it unfold organically, the faster you will move through it.
When you know you are in this transitional phase, and you simply accept its conditions and allow to surface what will, the process is very enjoyable and fun, like being on an amazing adventure, freeing and liberating.